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How can I help my husband with his twin's cancer?

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I feel helpless. My husband's twin brother has had bad news today, his cancer has spread and he's not going to recover from this horrid disease. My husband is trying to be positive but has moments of crying uncontrollably which we know is healthy to do but I don't know what to say and how I can help him, their older sister, and my brother-in-law's children and wife.

I'm known as a healer and a hugger but I feel overwhelmed and I don't know how to help - I want to practical stuff. Making tea and hugging only goes so far. 

Any advice?

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    Hi there  ..

    Making tea and a hug for me is priceless... you can't make things better or go away .. they all need to feel those feelings .. but someone who just listens with patience and a knowledge something's don't need answers or solutions ... you will do more then you ever know .. 

    Like on here sometimes people don't want an answer , they just want to get it all out ... so be kind to yourself, your hurting too ... it's hard caring for people .. it's easy to forget what you need ... and tell yourself, you don't need to be everything to everyone ... your just doing the best you can ..

    Big vertual hug ... Chrissie x

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