Lumpectomy now mastectomy

My mum had a lumpectomy on 28 Dec but we discovered last week that there is another tumour in her breast so this time the surgeon has suggested a mastectomy. He hopes that afterwards she may not need radiotherapy so that would be a bonus. She is booked in to have the operation on Thursday and is really laid back and pragmatic about the whole thing. On the other hand I am really upset about this and feel as if I am being really self absorbed. I haven't told her that I feel so angry and depressed about it all but as we are very close she probably knows. Has anyone else any experience of this? 

  • Hi Star2000

    I'm sorry to hear that Mum has to have more surgery.

    There's no rule book for how we should or shouldn't feel when someone we love is unwell. It's understandable that you're upset for her and of course worried for what else she may have to deal with.

    I really hope that all goes well for her op on Thursday. We'll be thinking of you both. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat modertor

  • Hi,

    Did she have an MRI scan before her lumpectomy? I was told I was having a lumpectomy then had scan and now I need a mastectomy. Hope she goes on ok xx

     

  • My wife (age 36) was diagnosed with breast cancer 15 days ago (what a shock that was!). She had a mastectomy yesterday and is the same as your Mum... really laid back about it (we'll much as she can!). I think once she knew there were 3 lumps in there she just wanted rid. 
    They did a reconstruction at the same time and whilst she's sore/in a bit of pain she's more worried about the results from the lymph nodes they took. 
    It's a tough job being positive for them (she did have a wobble this morning) but as I said to her I dont care if she has 1 boob, 3 or is blue head to toe as long as we have her. 
    Stay strong... it's a tough journey but we've all got this (but it is hard)