I have a brother who has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer these past few weeks, having known an uncles, aunties, cousin and father in law whom has since passed away from this, this one has shocked me the most. He’s my oldest brother by 6 yrs. he’s 58 and I’m 52. He’s like a child in his reaction to what the doctor is telling him, saying he doesn’t want to hear all of the news as the consultant only told my brother half the news, got to go back during the week for the time frame, he’s sticking his head in the sand, does the doctor have to tell him how long he has left or can you say you don’t want to know, my brother already suffers with anxiety attack’s and says he gets out of breath because of it, but we know it’s the cancer in both lungs causing his breathlessness, it’s also in his oesophagus, and liver. I’ve started getting panicked now because I don’t want to lose my brother and I m worried about timeframe he has left. I’ll be there for him and take him to all his appointments.
hes married with an autistic son at home,has 3 other children living away from home . I live close. I’ve never cried in front of him cause I don’t want him to see I’m scared for him, he had socialising problems as a child and at 9 went to a boarding school. He hasn’t been out except to hospital appointments with me, I worry about him. He’s my brother !,