Hello Wallyforever.  It is bad enough that you are losing your mum - I lost my mum to cancer some years ago now.  I don't understand why your partner should be pushing you away and it is not t he first tiem that I have heard from a woman saying her husband/partner is being difficult and ignoring her.  I really don't mean to say "oh men, they are all like that" because I know that is not the case but it does seem that some men cannot cope with very emotional subjects or know what to do to provide help for their partner.    Can you manage in these circumstances?  Do you still have your dad and are there other family members with whom you can share this supporting role.  I can only suggest you concentrate on your own needs and the needs of your mum and let your partner do whatever he wants; you can sort out the relationship one way or another at a future date.  You have more important things to care about now.  I am presuming that you have already given him the opportunity to sit down and talk this through but it has made no difference.  I mean, if the situation was reversed I am sure you would be doing all  you could to help him!  You are always welcome to come here and let off steam while going through this awful time.  Sorry I cannot really help you much.  Annie