Hi Kirsty21,

Very sorry to hear that your boyfriend has been diagnosed with cancer, I can't imagine how he or you must be feeling right now. It is a very personal situation to comment on but I can understand when you say that you don't want to add any stress for him. Possibly all you can do is tell him how you feel and as you are, that you are there to support him. I am not sure if you were with him when he was told he had cancer, if not, could you perhaps suggest that you could come along with him when he next has to see the Dr or consultant? He may be pushing you away to protect you? 

I think you can only tell him what you feel and that you're there for him, it is diffcult and I hope that over the coming days, you can both talk about how you can support one another and hoping that any treatments will go well for him.

Best wishes,

I have just recently been diagnosed with grade 3 breast cancer in my lymph nodes, I am 30 and my partner and I have no children, it’s been his dream chemotherapy could make me infertile and fertility treatment isn’t a promise either and I have found myself pushing him away due to the unknown, everyone with cancer has a long road ahead of them and it’s scary I always wonder how he will deal with it. Your boyfriend could possibly be thinking the same and not wanting to hurt you at all. Hope you manage to work this out. X 

Hi Linda63

Thank you for your reply. I feel selfish talking about this when he is going through so much I just want to be there for him. I will take your advise and talk to him tell him how I'm feeling and continue to be there for him showing support. So far he hasn't wanted me at the appointments but I think he is trying to protect me and he is trying to be strong but I will suggest for me to go again to see what he says.

Thank you