Hi there ..

The way I cope is ... accepting it's scary ... accepting non of us know the future ... live every day and find something that makes you smile .. don't look ahead .. tomorrow always looks overwhelming ... share tears .. and leave nothing unsaid ... when i have a bad day, and feel lost or scared or need to yell at everything .. i do, untill I get it all out ... and tell yourself , every emotion is all normal .. 

Make every good day a memory day ... walk this journey sharing all these emotions .. that's what makes us human ... don't try to be like super man / woman .. wer not ...and get some boxing gloves on, and get in the ring ready to knock cancers block off .. wer all in that same ring together .. and with you in your mum's courier, it better watch out . ... Chrissie xx

Hi LC,

I think that Chrissie has said it all. I have been through all this with my own mum. Her primary site was her breast, but it spread to Liver, Lungs, Brain and Bone. That was 21 years ago and they didn't even test the lymph nodes then.

It is a hard journey for all the family. You will need to be strong and positive for your mum. It is good if they are offering her treatment. My mum never got offered any. Try to be positive for your mum, tell her how much you love her, talk to one another and don't leave anything unsaid. Make the most of each and every day and try to make special memories where you can.

Find out how frightened she is by her diagnosis and try to put her mind to rest. Is she bed bound or is she still up and about? If so, she may need help with household chores and preparing meals, as she is likely to feel very tired.

Do you have other family members/relatives who can support you on this journey? Take any help you can when it is offered.

I am thinking of you and hoping that you find the strength to see this through.

Please let us know how you both get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx