I’m trying to find new things to feed my Dad, his throat area is narrowing with Cancer, and I’m having to purée his soup and give him soft puddings etc and would love your ideas on what to feed him, nothing too chewy or lumpy.
My dads dying from Small cell lung cancer, it has metastasis to lymph nodes, sternum, osophegus, bowel, bladder, spine theres possibly a bit on the brain too but he wouldn’t get a scan, (stubborn to a fault) and now has nodules of cancer sprouting up under his skin, some of these lumps have joined together along his rib cage, they are extremely sensitive to touch, he shouts out in pain at the least touch. I’ve been rubbing E45 lotion into his skin to stop it from drying out and breaking open. He has carers in 2 times a day.. but won’t let them do anything.. he doesn’t know where they’ve been and doesn’t want any germs-infection spread from other clients. His words not mine. So this leaves me to do all the caring for him, which I do gladly but have my own health issues too. He was given 7-9 months this time last year and has done amazing to get this far. He’s falling a lot now, I’m really surprised he hasn’t broken anything but won’t accept that he’s best to get help, he can get quite cheeky to me, and quite cutting. He was in hospital twice with sepsis, after the 1st time social work organisered the carers to come in, and wanted someone to stay at night they did offer Marie Curie Nurse but my dad said there’s people out there worse than him and it was decided with the family and social work I’d come and stay, as I don’t work because of my own health issues. I know his time is getting nearer as he’s not eating very much, he’s hardly drinking and his urine out put is a dribble once most days or on occasions twice a day. He still manages to get up to toilet but staggers into walls doors etc. He won’t use a stick or zimmer in doors which gets frustrating for me, each time I hear him move I hurry to be near him just incase he has another fall. I’m only dozing at night because I can hear him groaning in pain in his sleep, I always offer him his pain relief, but he can be stubborn and not take it. Which is really frustrating for me. I don’t like seeing him in pain when I know his meds can come trim it to a certain extent. I do have siblings but as usual everything is left to me. Don’t get me wrong I’d do all this again in a heart beat. It’s horrible watching someone who was once so strong and fiercely independent fade away he’s under 7 stone now from 17!! He’s not lost his sense of humour so I try and make light of a lot of things and it helps keep me sane too.
