hi all, Mum is stage 4 cervical cancer, spread to bones and liver and kidney. Had 2 chemo and radio and chose not to receive any more. 

At the moment and since July she has had bouts of appetite loss where she would eat nothing for weeks then would perk up again. Right now there is no sign of peeking up and she is totally wasting away. Only drinks water and coke sometimes. Craves coke as thinks it’s got nesessary electrolytes.

my problem is that even though I live 5 min drive from her she says she wants to be on her own and would let me stay for longer than half hour, says she is tired and asks me to go home (which could be understandable as I always have my 2 infants with me who are very loud). I bring food to her every other day which she has a bite of and not more. I am running of ideas of what to cook and she is refusing to go out for meals due to weakness. Not sure what I need to do, this is just cry for help. Everyone is saying “just be with her” but I can feel I am burdening her even more with the kids and their needs etc. We have no other family. I am going absolutely out of my head here, do I move in with her with my kids or do I carry on just visiting even for half hour a day and bring up food even for bites to try? Sorry for rambling I hope I got my point across 

i fear it is beginning of the end and I want to be there with her but at the same time I want to fight it and make her eat more to get her energy back up