My sister has terminal breast cancer and is now only receiving palliative care. She has two boys, aged 15 and 9. She lives alone but dad is around for the boys. I’m feeling lost and hurt as I feel my sister is pushing me away. I’ve never been to any treatment sessions as she always had a friend instead. I took time off work following terminal diagnosis but she never took offers of help etc...If I showed emotion she would say I was dramatic. I asked to spend time with her but always busy or makes excuses. Then next she’s telling friends and other people we don’t care. Never been there etc...

On the rare occasion I’ve taken my nephew home from school/or had them while she’s gone for treatment, but it’s always, my friend can’t do it so can you. I’ve always obliged and said I’m always here etc.

She is currently in hospital with an infection and boys are been cared for at her house by dad. I text to say I would pop and see boys and her reply was ‘would I mind if I didn’t as she doesn’t want everyone in her house when not there...

I have another sister and a brother, she is doing the same to them but not as tactless. I work at the school her boy goes to and they have been supportive to me but I was told off for letting them know about her recent diagnosis. I had to say as I need few days off to take in information. What ever I do or say it’s never right. Come to the conclusion I need to take a step back and leave her but it’s hard.  Am I doing the right thing?