Husband has bowel cancer and won't let me in

Hi

Please help me

my husband has rectal cancer spread to lungs and now lymph

l can’t cope anymore as he is unwilling to talk abou anything and doecnt allow me to go with him for appointments anymore!

i am worried that he feels alone and although I am a nurse I am stuck as to what to do

His family are not aware of how advanced things are as he wants to protect everyone 

i love him dearly but don’t know what to do anymore -I  dread each day

  • Hi there ...

    So sorry your going through this heartbraking time ... all I can tell you is l took myself away from everyone for a while, till I got everything sorted in my head ... luckily they all gave me space... then I could let them in, because I'd got all those feeling out ...

    I'm so glad I did ... he may need space as he may be overwhelmed right now ... if I were you, I'd tell him you'll be right there when he feels like talking ... as this is a long lonely journey on your own ... once I shared l had someone to hold my hand right through, and I couldn't have done it without everyone ...

    When he's ready ... remember it's o.k to share tears , hugs , and let him lead the way ... it's his cancer ... but later he must realise he will hurt people more by not sharing his journey .., everyone trying to be brave, means everyone walks a different path ... everyone being there, without overwhelming him is the way forward ... but give him space right now ...

    You'll always have somewhere to chat on here .. we know what this journey is like ... 

    Sending you a vertual hug ... Chrissie  xx