Kidney cancer metastasis-my dear husband

My husband 55 was diagnosed with kidney cancer lasy august. After having his kidney removed we were told there was no treatment and there was bo evidence of cancer elsewhere

a year later the cancer has spread to lungs, liver n kidney area. He has not started treatment because we were waiting for his initial lung lesions to get to 1cm. I think it was immunotherapy

now they are saying that he will habe to start his treatment asap but just the standard. Even though one of his lesions is 9mm he doesnt qualify for immunotherapy!

overall our live together has been turned upside down

he is the kindest loving man i have ever met and i cant see a future once he is gone. We have been married 8 years. Two step children. No children of our own

i just pray that i get the strength needed to deal with this. We do t have relatives that can really help

 but i am so thankful i have met him even though our life together is at a close end

xo

  • Hi there ...

    So sorry your going through this heartbraking time ... there have been quite a few where you are now  ... hopefully they may pop by ... though this time of year makes it even harder ...

    All I can offer as someone with cancer , is hold on to every day ... don't look ahead, as that's overwhelming ... share tears, hugs, and leave nothing unsaid .... make every day a memory day ... that's what I've done since my diagnosis ... 

    My heart goes out to you, and everyone loosing someone they love ... but if you make the most of today .. you will look back and know you filled every moment ... sending you a vertual hug ... 

    Chrissie

  • Dear Chrissie

    thanks for your kind reply. We have hospital apointment today. Apparently he has got worse so will have to start treatment asap

    i have never had to handle something so difficult and i find myself wondering if i can really do it all, support him, enjoy our time together... 

    but thanks for your advice i shall keep it in mind

    love mhbx

  • Hi there ...

    Being brave is about feeling scared to the core, but still seeing things through ... I never dreamed I could have come through this ... when everything is overwhelming... but we only have 2 choices ... give in .. or do our best ...  but never dout we all get scared too .. it's part of this crule journey ... and all those feelings your having, is normal ... be kind to your heart .. and cry when you need to... then get back in the ring, you'll find us all there ...  fingers crossed for your appointment today ... 

    Big hug as always ...  Chrissie xx