Hi love, this is hard for all of you, my husband is 73 and it was hard telling our grown up daughter's.   However we have three grandchildren two of whom are 6 and 8.  We told them that Grandad was poorly and needed to have some strong medicine to make him better.   This gave them some idea of what was happening without mentioning cancer.   The chemo nowadays is tolerated better because it's specifically made for the patient and adjusted as it goes.  Maybe see how the first few weeks go, then adjust the situation to suit you all.  Cancer is a scary word for little ones.  I'm sure one of our moderators will give advice,  so hang in there.   Good luck with what you decide.   Carol 

It's extremely hard but I have been living with cancer for two years and my main advice is live it a day at a time.   This will help you concentrate on the things happening that day , don't think too far ahead because it's energy wasted and it fills your mind with questions you can't answer.   Just try it for a few days and see if it helps .  X

Hello worriedmummynic,

You've had some truly excellent advice from Caz07. I thought I would also share this link to our website which has some great tips on talking to children about cancer. It mentions that being open and honest is almost always the best way with children but I can imagine this will be such a difficult conversation for you to have.

We're all here for you whenever you need to chat. It must be such a tough time for you at the moment.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator