Help for my brother in law

Hi guys it a heard question my brother in law has hogdsons lymphoma cancer stage 4 he really unwell at the moment he keep having black outs and used to be a drinker before diagnosed it basically sent him over the edge and he started drinking again lately and had more black outs and smashed his head in and had glass in his head our family are care  for him 24 7 but he a adult and will only listen so much he been awarded high rate pip and got a lot of back dated money and been spending it on drink and rubbish we are so concerned about his health we don't want to loose him neither do his young kids it break my heart seeing him that this but to be honest the pip money not helping him it making him buy drink 24 7 he also k33p missing his chemo he in hospital at moment but has signed himself out today is there any chance we could get his pip stopped of we rang and told them what going on sounds cruel but really don't want to loose him any advice will be appreciated thanks 

  • Hello Boro1970,

    What a desperately sad situation. I think your brother in law needs to get some urgent help for his drinking problem especially as it won't be good for him at all at the moment especially if it also makes him miss his chemotherapy treatment. Is there someone in his close family who could speak to his medical team and see whether there are some services available specifically for patients who are in his situation? It sounds like he needs proper help to recover from this drink problem but obviously you would also need his cooperation for that. It is a very delicate matter indeed. Our nurses may be able to advise you further on this and point you in the right direction or let you know about services that may be available to him in his specific situation. You can ring them on this free number 0808 800 4040 Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm and don't hesitate to talk things through with them.

    I will also let our lovely members come and share words of wisdom with you based on their own personal stories and experiences. I do hope you find a solution soon to help your poor brother in law at the moment.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator