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Mum has incurable secondary breast cancer - how do I cope?

Lrope88
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Hi all, 

Never thought id have to post here but last week my mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer which has spread and is now incurable. She had the all clear a year ago and life has been fantastic, seeing her get her life back (and her hair). Now this prognosis of months to a few years with successful chemo has me devastated. I simply do not know how to process this news. I can't imagine losing my mum, I'm only just 30 years old. I also suffer badly with anxiety and depression and I'm worried about a relapse. 

Any words of advice or support would really help me right now. 

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    I am so sorry to hear this. I am in the position where I may soon be hearing that my breast cancer is incurable but I am going to fight to the end. I will assume it is years rather than months. Make the most of the time you have together and make lovely memories. It will be much easier for your mum if you accept what is to be. Try to cry in private and give her positive support and give her reason to think that you will be okay without her. I know the hardest part was telling my children who are just a little bit older than you.

    I wish you well.

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    Hi

    Thankyou for replying. 

    Things are still very raw. Were waiting for news to see if she is accepted onto a clinical trial and hopefully chemo will start soon. I've been making sure she doesn't see me upset. I'm showing her that I can deal with this. Because the thought of her worrying about me just breaks my heart. 

    I'm hoping it's years too. She's so strong and has so much to live for, I know she will fight with all she has .

    I'm sorry to hear you're ill also - how are things?

    Leona x

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