So sorry to hear this. You are both in shock. It is ok to let the feelings out, Ge-you dont have to be strong just now.  Ideally, you need support from a nurse or volunteer from a carer's group. Find out what's available in your area. You need to look after your own health so you can help him.

Then when you're ready, pick yourself up and work really hard on being positive for him. It may not be as hopeless as you think.

Lots of love

x

Thank you Monica

It is a shock, he still seems so well and doesn't have any symptoms.

He is being really strong so I need to try and support him

Thank you for your support

Im sorry to hear about your husband to be.

Yes I find the morning the hardest, for a moment I wake up thinking everything is ok and then it hits me and I have to do it all again.

We're waiting to see an oncologist but told we should be aiming for radiotherapy early new year. Maybe feel a bit better when we've seen some experts and have a clear plan. 

What about you? 

Currently feel exhausted with all the emotions. How life changes so quickly x

I know what you mean about the emotions and just now you are at the sharp end. We had so much planned over the winter and I feel angry that cancer has cast a shadow over what should have been a very joyful time. My partner is only 62 and the kindest sweetest man ever-he does not deserve this. He was diagnosed October 16th and I remember the sheer terror we both felt at that time. I long to go back to the time before cancer. I relate very strongly to what you said about the world having changed so fast.

However, you do begin to get your head around it and I promise you, you will find your strength from somewhere and you just get on with it. The treatment plan helps a lot as you won't feel so helpless.

You will have some times when you forget for a little while and those times are lovely, and even though its hard, you find your own path through it. For example, I am very practical and need to know as much as I can, while my darling prefers distraction and gets on with doing the things he likes doing. He has elderly and frail parents and grown up children, all at some distance, so I keep them informed by phone and answer any cancer questions, and then he chats with them about football, golf, music-more general stuff.  We eat and drink very well and enjoy walking our dog.You will find what works for you both. Try and find some happiness.

Remember, new treatments are being developed all the time and there are many stories from people on this forum who have done much better than expected.

Love xxx