help needed im losing my dad

hello, 

my dad is terminal and ive been caring for him because he wants to stay home, he lost his wife a few weeks back and went downhill from there.. hes now bed bound and has had a syringe driver fitted they said it was too early for that but dad said im not taking no more tablets so ya better do it.. he now chokes on his oral morphine, i asked the nurse this am how long can you give me any guideance and she said because his feet are swelling and hes in more pain and confused she thinks his body is shutting down so it could be a matter of days but that they can never tell.. 

i just want to know what to expect .. will i know when the time comes not to leave him alone 

 

thank you in advance 

 

  • Hi there, so sorry to hear about your daddy. I lost my wonderful dad 8 weeks ago today and am still heartbroken. I was with my dad when he died and it was a good experience as was peaceful and painfree, and I have great pleasure in knowing that. My dad had amazing strength and didn't want to lose his fight but he lasted 48 hours longer than they thought. You will know in your heart when his time is getting closer to going. About an hour before my dad passed away in hospital, I was thinking of popping home to see my children but there had an accident and was told the traffic was so bad so i thought I'd stay...I still believe fate played a huge part as within the hour, he passed and I was there. About half hour prior also, the Doctor came into check on him and I was talking to him about dad's life story really and how amazing he'd been to his family and again, within ten minutes he took his final breath. Again I take pleasure in hoping he heard our conversation and how proud I was of him. ️ If it's any help, my dad didn't communicate for about 48 hours prior and just slept. Try and make the most of every hour as everything else will wait and still be there in a few days time. Thinking of you take care X

  • I'm scared to death of not been there when my dad goes, he's been given 2 to 3 months but it's spread everywhere, he's said I've got to go back to work 250 miles away. I've taken a lot of time off these last 2 year's to be with him as his wife was killed in a car crash. He's alone so I've tried to be there all I can. I'm in shock about the prognosis thought he had years but months at best. Devastated I just don't know what to do, I'm his next of kin n executor of the will. I really dont know how I'm going to do this all his wife's things aswell as he never dealt with her death. He was going to after the cancer was gone. Life is so cruel and unfair sometimes 

    Xxxx