Hi Friday . 

Bless ya, we all know on here people that won't mention the word cancer ... or their scared to say how are you, in case you tell em ... I found when I had to spend a lot of time in bed, early on after masectomy ..  that looking through these threads really gave me a perpoise and stopped me feeling sorry for myself ..  there's quite a few times someone comes on here who has one to talk to ..

Well on here, there's always someone you can help... others can help you ... we hold each other up on hard days, and high 5 on good ones ... you can talk about anything ... and sometimes just writting it down will make you feel better ...

Even if there's threads on here, you don't understand, just saying your listening, or empathise ... means so much .. and people like you are so needed here ... coz you know what your going through, and can help other carers that feel lonely ... 

So I'm here most days... I can't make things go away, but I can listen ... the more we help others, the more we get back ... lots on here really care, and you'd be most welcome part of our little family ..

Big hug Chrissie

Thank you for your kind words it is just so hard my husband has just finished radio last night he is in a lot of pain as it’s bum but he just lies and watching day time T.V.And my darling daughter how she is managing with two kids.I am sorry for going on but I am just heartbroken and the peple who I thought would be there for me have disappeared don’t ring don’t come round there is just me and dog on the island .My husband goes mad if he sees me crying Thank you again

Just wanted to second Chriss's post to you.  Look through the posts and you will probably find ones where you can understand what people are going through.  Get tapping on your keyboard and you have a conversation with people whose situation is in some ways similar to your own.    When I was started posting here I was so ignorant of so much that was being written - but I have learned a lot including how many people feel isolated by their situations.  This is where we all help each other.    I have found that even where I understand precious little about the technicalities of the problems individual posters have it is nice just to say hello and chat.  I don't talk much to the people I know about coming and chatting here - you are right, some people don't want to hear about cancer as though it is some kind of disease which is transmitted just by talking about it!  So you have come to the right place to talk about your problems and find support.  Annie

Hi there ...

Just want to add chemo is grawling at the best of times .. that's why he's no energy, and just wants to sit / lay in front of t.v ... even trips to the loo or making a cup of tea, can be exorsting... he'll feel like that for a good while yet ... it takes lots of time and slowly he'll be more able .. but he's getting on in age like all of us ... and for me, I know my energy levels will never be the same again .. and I'm 16 months after op ..

So you'll need lots of understanding ... let him do whatever he feels able to, or nothing at all ... Annieliz has cared for people too ... so she knows just how hard that is ... and don't let those so called friends be a thought in your head ... let it go ... they are not worth it ... I'm glad I found out who my true friends and family are ... they are the ones I'll be there for when they need me ... those others , well not worth talking about ... we've all had to deal with that ... 

So there you go... in just one post, you've chatted to me and annieliz .... maybe even more will pop by .. 

Chrissie  xx