Hi there ...

And welcome to our little chat room where you can get anything off your chest, and get different views but by people who have lived what your going through ..

So all I can give you is my way at looking at cancer ... I had a grade 3 breast cancer and masectomy July last year. . I've have taken every day since as a gift .. I try and smile about something for every one of those days ... even on low days ... most of my way of dealing with cancer, is because I share feelings and hugs with my son, and nieces that are my closest family ... while knowing we can say this is really scary .. 

Holding emotions in, doesn't help anyone ... esp your children ... slowly let them in ..otherwiise  later they will feel left out and it won't help them move on ... if I were you, I sit on a calm night and hold his hand .. and say if you want to talk about anything , I'm right here ... and I'll listen ... and tell him your scared ... we all are ..it's part of this journey wer all on ... but if you share thoughts, and hugs ... and feel those emotions together as a family ... you will come out the other end, with a hand to hold ...

And wer always here, to offer a shoulder to lean on ... this is a start of you sharing emotions ... sending you a big hug ... Chrissie

Hi, I am in your same boat now. We have been doing this 2 years now and found out last week it's in his lungs. We have 2 small children and I'm scared to death. I dont want to watch this. Its heartbreaking getting bad news over and over, and it's even harder letting go of the fact we will never do all the things we planned. We are believers and are at peace with that part, but it doesnt make it easier ... I realized in the last few days it's okay to still live life. It's okay to laugh if something's funny, and the most important...... If it's sad by all means cry show your feelings,and ......breathe. Keep living find a support group with others. I plan on calling Monday. We can make a difference in this hard part of life by preparing ourselves and finding the positive even when our spouse can not because he is angry. Let them be ...its takes time for acceptance I believe. Now let's hope I can do this. It sounds really good when I say it to myself. This is territory I am new too... I know you will find your stength.. and only think of the present day. Make sure your affairs are in order  not because your giving up, but because if it does go in a bad direction that wont be something you have to do when you need to when your hands get to full. Breathe