Mum is approaching end of life

Hi and thank you for reading this post. My mum has has been ill for almost two years now with cancer that came back in her liver, lungs and breatbone. Recently she has been deteriorating so I am flying out to see her and be with her. I just feel like I'm upsetting her all the time though as I try to manage her logistics because she can't walk very far and she hates to be reminded of this fact. Trying to do what's best for her but she calls me a terrible person for making her upset and draining her energy. Has anyone experienced this and is there something I should be doing differently? I feel like she'll never change her opinion of me as someone who tries to boss her around even though I'm the one who's sorted out her care and looked after her for the last 2 years. 

  • I'm very sorry to read about your mum's diagnosis Anonymous_123.

    A lot of members here on the forum caring for someone with the latter stages of cancer will identify with some of the behaviour your mum is displaying at the moment and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    You sound like a wonderful person and I'm sure deep down she is very grateful for everything you have done and continue to do for her so when those tough times with your mum come up just try to keep that in mind and remind yourself that it is the cancer and most likely anger and frustration with her situation that is making her behave this way.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator