Help please :(

my lovely dad has stage 4 pancreatic cancer that has sodas. He’s in bits, we have a meeting tommorow with specialists to give us the news of how far it’s spread and how long he has. We already know it’s not curable and there is no chance of surgery. 

I’m his 25 year old daughter. I’m being positive for him,

but I’ve never been so scared in my life I’m terrified and I just want this nightmare to stop and things to be okay and normal again. I was wondering if anyone has been to these meetings and what they are like also if anyone has had lived a longer life after been given only a short amount of time. 

Please please help me tonight I just feel so broken

  • Hi there ...

    So sorry your having this heartbrake ... and I can't answer what happens there .. but just wanted you to know, someone's thinking of you ... nothing can take this pain away ... but as a mum and nan with breast cancer ... all I can say is my outlook now ..

    I take every day and try to make it a memory day ... none of us know how long we have, so take every day your given ... walk whatever path your dad's on, hand in hand .. share tears, hugs, and admit your both scared .. listen to each other.. even when it's hard to hear .. I lost my mum suddenly chatted on the phone one Monday morning .. she had a massive heart attack and by 5.20 she'd gone .. I never got the chance to tell her , I was so proud to have had her for my mum ... and to say thanks for all the amazing years and memories she'd left us .. 

    So hold on .. and know it's o.k to feel however you feel... but don't miss a second ... because having someone hold our hand on this journey means more then you'll ever know ...

    Whatever that meeting holds.. you'll do it together ... and there is an amazing man on here, who has pushed his diagnosis farther then they'd given him ... sending you a big hug ..  Chrissie