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Hi my mum has terminal lymphoma,she has her 4th chemo treatment tomorrow due to me having bad anxiety and depression and servere flushing I’ve not been able to take her. My dad and brother have shared this , I have done lots of things for her around the house and garden looked after dog etc and been supportive the best I can due to my anxiety, I feel like I’m not doing enough and useless after all she has terminal cancer so hard to deal with very upsetting .

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    Hi all thought I would post again as no one did reply to my first post . Just like to ask everyone does anyone suffer from anxiety and depression while facing your mum having terminal cancer or any family member and how they cope or deal with it thanks for listening take care everyone.

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    I suffer with anxiety and depression and my husband is terminal. I understand how difficult it is for you as I am going through the same thing. All you cando is your best Some days I think I can't cope but have to keep things going. We need food and all the normal things. You need to have suffered with anxiety to know how horrible it can be. Some times I am angry with him for being ill and giving me all the extra stress then guilty for feeling like that. I'm sure your family appreciate that you are doing all you can to help. That is all you can do. Just be there for all of them. They know about your illness and will be proud that you are helping all you can.

    Sending hugs. Talk to me anytime Sue

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    Hi sue thanks for taking the time to reply to me it must be extremely hard for you sorry about your husband lots of hugs for you . I think you are amazing coping with anxiety and depression  as well as your husband it’s a horrible disease best wishes to you both and I’m also here if you need to talk thank you.

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