I feel so alone

My partner was diagnosed with a skull based tumour in July, the day I gave birth to our second child. He underwent a 15 hour transnasal surgery to remove the tumour it was 7cm. The surgeons where optimistic they removed more than they initially thought they would as it was compressing his brain stem. We are currently waiting for the results of his recent mri so we know what the next stage will be. It’s so difficult caring for him and my two young children, I just feel so alone and sad right now, how do you come back from something like this, he’s only 31.

 

  • Hi,

    OMG, what a horrible situation for you both. Child birth and cancer are each tramatic situations without them coinciding. 

    You're bound to be worried and frightened. Most of us have been through the stress of waiting for scan or test results, all you can do is take it one day at a time and try to distract your mind as much as you can. I'd say try not to worry, but that's impossible.

    Good luck with the results - I hope the news is good.
    Dave

  • Hello there.  I hope you are getting support from family and/or friends as you will be feeling very fragile and frazzled I imagine.  Don't be too proud to ask for help; everyone needs help at times like this and you owe it to yourself and your family to ensure you are getting this.  I think I am right from your post that you are caring for your husband at home - is he getting visits from any medical staff or does he always have to go to the hospital for tests etc?  It is so difficult while you are in the middle of waiting for test results and I hope you know soon what the outcome of the MRI was so that you can make appropriate plans for how your family will get through this.  Don't try to be all things to all people at the same time; you are human too.  Annie