Hi,

My dad is rapidly going downhill and is in a hospice at the moment. I don't sit with him everyday all day as I know and resepct that he likes his time to himself but I am at a loss.

He has never been one to give up - not in the whole of his life and just suddenly he won't do anything, has become very stubborn about doing anything and decieving me, telling me different things from the truth (I'm not saying that he is lying, it's never just the whole truth).

For example, he is very old school and believes it's important to get up, dressed and washed no matter how ill somebody is and he's been like this even with the cancer but today I have found him led in bed in his pyjamas asleep. I asked him why and he claimed to have fallen but I was told that he is refusing everything from shower to eating to drinking to watching TV even getting dressed and it is so unlike him!

Has anyone got any tips on what I can do to make him more motivated and is there anyone else out there going through the same thing??

Thanks.