Final stages

Hi my 94 year old mother was diagnosed with lung cancer in August. I was just wondering if anyone else was experiencing or experienced the same as me. Mum has gone from denial to acceptance that nothing can be done because of her age. We don’t know what stage she is at or how long she has had it as it is too risky to do biopsy.

the last four days have been a nightmare as she is awake all day and night wandering around seeing people everywhere and chattering 

I thought she was finally

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this morning when I found her in the longe arguing with my deceased father over the tv and moaning that my daughter(who isn’t here) about not drinking her coffe

she knew the clocks had gone back but thought it was afternoo

at my wits end and am so tired

can anyone come up with any ideas to keep her in bed at night 

  • Hi ya ... Now I know this goes against the grain ... But my sister's the same with dementure ... We go with her into her world ... And we chat like our mum's right here when she's been gone 29 years ...

    Where ever she is we go there with her ... It takes stress away ... And you never know they may see what we can't ... And remember she's 94 ... And is probly quite o.k with her world ... She's done her fighting .. struggles ... So don't worry if she's awake a lot ... Just go with the flow ... I have one sister who tries to keep oldest sis in our time and she comes away in tears ... 

    You can do this ... Ask her what those she sees talks about ... You may just find it can be a comfort if you just let go of today ... Chrissie x

  • Thanks for that chrissie

    my daughter she keeps seeing traveled to see her today and she still insisted she had been here yesterday 

    tonight I have Marie curie doing an overnight so I can sleep and recharge my batteries after two nights and three days 

    mum is sleeping a lot today but who knows what the night will bring 

  • Hi there ...

    So glad you got help from Marie Currie ... how amazing are they ...

    You get a good night ... and just go along with it .. it does make things more copeable... your doing an amazing thing ... and grab all the help offered ... always here if you want a chat ...

    I know how hard it can be .. my beautiful sister, now swears all the time ... tells us to f o ... won't wash much ... but you know she's still there deep inside ... I played her rock and roll music last time and for a little while, she came back ... 

    Chrissie