Hello Herbie, every time I come onto this forum I realise there are so, so many people in the same boat as me.  My heart goes out to you and your lovely family. 

 I can’t give you much advice or help other than suggest that you check out the “dying with cancer“ section on this forum. It talks you through so much good advice and help. The only other thing I can suggest is perhaps get some counselling for yourself. We have a fabulous local hospice who offer counselling for patients and carers.  Maybe you have something similar? 

 It must be so hard for your husband to be amongst his family and unable to tell you how he is feeling, but you can’t force it - all you can do is  hold his hand, be patient, be supportive, wait and hope that the floodgates will open soon. 

 Please take care of yourself, you are so important to his physical and mental well-being so you need to be as strong as you possibly can be. Believe me, I know that is so much harder said than done. 

 Take care  be kind to yourself. 

Ruth xx