Terminal Cancer

My wife says I should marry again.  She wants me to be happy after she is gone.  In May 18 we looked at buying a house by the sea.  "This is for you, I wont  be here in September", she said.  I'm 51, she 56.  I quit work to care for her in Feb 2016.  We never moved, by now I am emotionally drained with no goals in life.  For someone who was a do'er, i feel im dying mentally / emotionally.   I never built up friendships much in my work life.  Now, I regret this and find it so lonely.  My wife is soon to go to pallative care and all I want to do is travel and escape the inevitable painful ending of a life.  I've seen it before with my oldest  brother at 18.  It might sound selfish, but  i feel my life is being robbed.

  • Hi Gearoid and welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I can't begin to imagine how difficult this time is for you but I want you to know that you are not alone as many members here on the forum who are or have been in similar situations will really understand how you're feeling and what you're going through at the moment and hopefully some of them will reply soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you.

    We have some information on our website about taking care of yourself which I hope you will find useful at this time as well as counselling. It's not for everyone but some of our members have found it really helpful and as you're feeling rather lonely and isolated at the moment it may be good for you to have the chance to talk to someone face to face about how you are feeling.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator