Hi Frances, 

I am so so sorry to hear about your father, I went through a similar thing with my grandma and it is so distressing when you feel there is nothing you can do. All I did was sit beside her holding her hand, talking to her and playing her favourite music which seemed to really help. It was heartbreaking to say the least, one thing I will be able to give a little advice on is the amount of pain relief he is on, my grandma was in pain at the end because we think the nurses gave her the wrong amount of pain relief which was hard, I would double check if you havent already with a nurse or doc about his pain relief just to be sure if he seems in alot of pain. When it gets to this point in their journey I think what your doing is amazing and im sure means the world to him to have you by his side. If you are still unsure and would like maybe better advice call up one of your nurses or docs and ask them if there is anything else you can do for him to make him more comfortable. I'm sorry I cant be of more help but I am sending big hugs your way and dont forget we are always about on here if you need a chat or a vent. 

Bex