Caring for someone with sarcomatoid carcinoma

hi all my name is bill and please forgive my spelling.im new and not sure what to say.i care for my wife all the  time and their is no one else. I will try to make it short my wife refused treatment because she may not servi it.she is 68 and we have bean marid 52 years.we are not shor how long we have left to gether.she was told in February 2018 when the doctor tried to explain things to us and said my wife had munths to liv. She’s so tired all the time and is crying  about leaving me by myself.i told her I will be ok .my thoughts are with you all

  • Hi Bill, I just wanted to welcome you. I’m afraid I have no experience of sarcomatoid carcinoma but I don’t want you to feel as if no one is listening. I came here because my dad has oesophageal cancer, probably terminal. Although we don’t carry the same burden I do want you to know that there are people out here, in the world, that do know how desperate you feel to find somone that understands. Nobody can ever feel the pain that you feel, and nobody ever will, but there are some of us who want to share our burdens, try to understand yours and support each other through the hardest times we’ll ever face. I’m here to support you xxxx

  • Thank you for the welcome 

    Hope your dad is fine.

    For gotten to say my wife’s condition is in the lung.

    The doctors blamed my wife’s C.O.P.D for the way she was feeling.

    Your breathing should not be making you be So poorly and sent here for a CT scan.

    Then it showed a mass by then she was in stage 4.

    The mass is now 7- to 8 cm.

    The X-ray did not show the mass.

    she has bard headaches.

    She seriously sweats a lot around head and neck.

    she is in bed most of the time because she is so tired and the pains are not so bard.

    she will not face the world no more.

    she was a strong person but this beast as beat us.

    not shore if sum one else as come across this.

    sumtimes she is good then she calls me names I no she dus not mean it.

    the doctor said it’s her condition take no notice   .

    well must get on washing get the house work done.

    see what mood she wakes up in (hope it’s a good one)

    i will up date.Thank you 

  • Hiya Bill, I am sorry to hear about the hardships you and your wife are facing. It is a hard thing to do caring for someone with cancer especially in their later stages, I had to take care of my father, and its never easy. I know its so awful when you know your going to lose someone, but just maybe try and focus on the beautiful life you've had together and the time you still have with her, I know its not easy, we are here to support you however we can, I know it hurts but I hope we can help 

    Bex x