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Guntommy
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Hi all,just discovered this page and i am feeling a bit down because all summer i have been dealing with finding out my dad has a brain tumour to finding out it is cancerous and now finding out that the doctor says it wont be fully curable. What does this mean? Im scared what the future holds. He is in good form at the moment and remains positive cause thats the person he is. He has finished his radiation and is home at the minute but by the doctor saying it wont be fully curable. Does that mean he will keep getting sicker? 

Thanks guys

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    Hello Guntommy,

    What a summer you've had. It must have been incredibly stressful for you and your family.

    I hope you get some answers soon. Perhaps you could ask the doctor to clarify what he or she meant? Sometimes although it isn't possible to cure a tumour, it is possible to treat and improve quality of life for patients but only your father's medical team will be able to tell you what to expect and what they meant so don't hesitate to ask them for more details.

    I am pleased to hear your dad is in good spirits at the moment and that he is back home after finishing radiation. I hope the rest of his treatment goes well.

    Hopefully you will hear from others here who have been in a similar place and that they will be along soon to offer you support and advice at a time when you need it the most.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi and welcome to the forum,  even though it's not what you would have wished to join normally.  Eighteen months ago my husband was diagnosed with incurable lung cancer, so I understand your concerns.   After  treatment the tumour has shrunk by 60% and he's upbeat also,  although there are some down days, which is normal.  So we don't worry about the future,  we live each day as he wants to and we ignore the cancer word.  Our family follow our mantra and don't ask questions that we can't answer,  because we don't know how long he's got either.  Dad's want to remain Dad's,  it upsets them that their children , grown up or otherwise have to worry for them.  So don't despair and fear the worst, be honest with him, let him know that your concerns are normal and follow his stoical lead.  Good luck and warmest wishes to you all.   Carol 

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