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Don having 3rd chemo next week. Better this time but feel like waiting for the inevitable. Not knowing if it is working or if it is going to give him any appreciable extra time. Can't get my head around it. Wish someone could give us some definite answers

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    Hello Suenmags. I have read your previous posts and was pleased you were having discussions with Chrissie and Carol both of whom are (sadly) very experienced and knowledgeable about the situation in which you find yourself.  I know it feels unique to the person who is suffering and I just wanted to say that you should make your stand against cancer by giving your husband as much love and happiness as is possible in this situation.  Hard as it is you can make his last months/weeks/days memorable for good (as well as bad) reasons.  Not easy but well worth the effort.  I am pleased you feel you can come here to let your worries flow - everyone needs some help.  You are stronger than you think when it comes to making life better for the one you love most in the world.   My very best wishes to you and I hope the chemo reaction isn't so bad this time.   As you have discovered there are few definites in the cancer battle - we can just do what we can to make the best of whatever comes our way.   Annie

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    Thanks Annie

    I am trying hard to support him and most days I cope but some days are hard. I suffered with anxiety before Don was diagnosed but manage to keep going just seems too much sometimes. Been referred to Macmillan nurses so hoping they can help us understand everything better and make the best we can

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    Please don't think I was trying to say that this is not a very hard battle - it was meant more as a word of praise for you and others caring for their loved ones and making the best of the time that is left.  And encouragement, and indeed anything that shows you doing sterling work in the most horrendous of times.  I know there are times when it all seems impossible but somehow we struggle on.  I hope you will get extra support from Macmillan and keep coming here when you need a bit of help.  I - in the past - have also felt that "nobody understands how awful it is" but sadly too many people do so I hope that you are finding some support from whatever sources are available.  I think you are doing a lot better overall than you think - your recognising that help is useful is a good sign!  Annie 

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