Mums last few days now... heartbroken

How do you cope knowing your best friend/mum is in her last few days. We are caring for her at home and was told on Sunday by nurse at hospice who came to visir that maybe be few days now.  Shes' stopped eating now and  only drinkin sips of water.  We was told 6 weeks ago her lymhoma  had spread to the brain which is rare, and gave mum 3 months.  We took her home she doesn'  have a clue what' going on as she was confused and memory loss etc she still smiled and gave us kisses until about a week ago... now she just sleeps.  It' so hard watching her life slip away, I try and be brave and strong for my siblings and children but I'm crumbling inside  ...only blessing is that she is in no pain whatsoever ...  God bless 

  • Hi there Nancy...

    So sorry, it's really heartbraking and one of the hardest things we can do in life ... thankfully, her pain seems under control .. that's what we all want ... I was told a while ago, the hearing is still there and the last thing that goes ... I'm not qualified, so I don't know how true but if it were me, I'd hold her hand and never stop chatting to her, in case she can hear ... what a lovely family to have round her ...

    So I'm sending you all a big hug, from someone who lost both parents in my 30 s... hold on in there ...  Chrissie

  • Watching my Mum slip away was the most traumatic event of my life. 

    I sat with her, massaged hand cream into her hands and arms, read her bits of the news, chatted and just held her hand. I know she was not really conscious but I know she would have liked it. 

    You don’t need to be strong for everyone, crying and grieving is sharing and when your children see you are sad but you can support and receive support it is a wonderful lesson to teach them even if they are adults x