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Husband back on hospital. Reacted to first session of chemo.badly. Having every test going to find out if underlying cause. Hoping to have some news today.  We hoped the chemo would give him a few more months. If he is going to be so bad after every session wondering if it will be worth it. Don't know which way to turn

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    Hi there ... so sorry it's such a heartbraking time your going through ... and we all have that dilema, but in the end it has to be his decision ... some want to do anything no matter what... others like myself would rather take every day and live that day ... but the best thing you can do for him now, is listen ... and support whichever way he needs to go ... 

    There is no easy answer ... if only we had a crystal ball ... but whatever he choses, do that and never look back, and say "what if" that's what I'm doing ... and there are some on here, pushing those last months .. and remember cancer wants to take everything away from us, so don't let it take away the time you have left .. listen, admit your both scared , hugs and "I love yous" and share tears and smiles .. and walk this last journey hand in hand ... for these memories you make now will stay in your heart ...

    So my heart goes out to you both now ... stick two fingers up to cancer, and treat every day as a bonus .. sending you a big hug ... Chrissie   ; )) 

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    Thanks Chrissie

    I will support Don in whatever decision he makes. Waiting for consultant to see him today and what they have to say. We have been married for 54 years in September and hopefully if he is well enough do something nice. The prognosis in June was months not years so it may be the last one we celebrate. We have had a good life together with lots of wonderful memories and a can still make more. Hoping things are good with you. 2 fingers to cancer and KBO. My brothers stock phrase ( Keep buggering on like Churchill in 2nd world war) cancer is our own personal war for us to win in whatever way we can

    Love and hugs suenmags

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    Bless ya sue...

    You know my mum went suddenly with heart attack ... not one more I love you, and I so wanted to say "Thank you for being my mum" and what I'd give for just one day, or even an hour ... this is what I realise in life now, it's what we've got, and our choice to when everything is black around us, it's easy to feel lost .. but I've learned no matter what happens in life I can still look up and see the stars ... this journey of ours is not about winning or loosing this boxing match with cancer, it's about kicking cancers *** right down the road ... we are a lot more then cancer .. so celebrate just being here today ... 

    If ever you want to chat, I'm here most days .. and I've seen lots of lows in my life, and know to well those feelings ... try to live in the "now" and deal with things as and when they pop up .. you are stronger then you think, it's not about being knocked to the ground, its about letting those feelings out, but then it's about going one more round ... so here's to memories still to make .. Chrissie

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