Hi - I am hoping that I might get a little bit of advice. Yesterday my lovely father in law was unexpectedly given a diagnosis that his recent weight loss was due to untreatable secondary cancer in his lungs which would have been caused by the bowel cancer he was successfully treated for 6yrs ago. Apart from the awful shock (he does not feel unwell and ironically looks very healthy following the weight loss) it seems hard to get a clear picture of what information to read up on. Because the cancer is a secondary it is not strictly speaking lung cancer, but all the information I can find about bowel cancer tends to relate to the more traditional locations, and he has no growths other than in his lungs. The consultant said he could not put a timeframe on things cos it was unclear how long the tumours had been there or how fast they are growing, but confirmed the weight loss was likely caused by the cancer. All they could suggest was that he carry on life as normal and wait for symptoms to develop. I got the impression that any symptoms would be well managed in due course, but it is very hard to know what kind of timeframe til we get to that point? Has anyone had any similar experiences? My mother died of pancreatic cancer 5 weeks after diagnosis last year having had no symptoms til very late, so I know how fast things can progress but not sure if this is similar or not? My other question was whether anyone knew of any support groups or forums for my sweetheart daughter. She will be 13 next month so doesn't slot easily into the young children or teenage genre and any sites I can find are for when it is a parent or sibling with cancer not a grandparent. We have a good relationship and we talk and are close (she is an only child) but she is only getting over the sudden diagnosis and death of my mum, and now she is presented with the sudden diagnosis of her favourite grandpa. I myself had a very small and completely recovered from stroke about 2yrs ago which also came out of the blue and really shook her, and my husband had a dvt earlier this year (he is fine now) so I am concerned as to how she will deal with yet another sudden illness striking her loved ones. In each case everyone affected was well and healthy with no obvious risk factors, which makes it more scary for her. Any suggestions welcomed.