My poorly mom

Hi iv just joined as im worries that my mom is going down hill and wanted to ask if anyone has experienced this themselves or with a loved one. My mom is 56 and terminal with secondry breast cancer we got told October last year after initially having breast cancer 2014. It has spread to spine, diaphragm & Lungs. She started off on hormone treatment but after scans showed not responding they have now put her on chemo tablet. Once a week for 3 weeks then 2 weeks off then on again. She has gone from 11st to 7.5st and on more & more morphine. She doesn't really eat now & drink and is sleeping a lot lately especially the last 3 days all day. She is complaining of a numb mouth & teeth & her lips look bit blue. I'm not sure if this is just the treatment or are things progressing. Any thoughts??

  • Hi Lennon and welcome to Cancer Chat although I'm sorry to be greeting you under these circumstances.

    We have many members who have been in similar situations with their partners and loved ones and I'm sure some of them will be along soon to share their thoughts and experiences. I just wanted to put you in touch with [@dominique2323]‍ as she's witnessing the same symptoms with her grandmother so you may find it helpful to chat about what you're going through and support each other at this time.

    We have some information about what to expect in the last weeks and days of a person's life on our website but as I mentioned to Dominique, it is a difficult read so do only go through it when you feel ready to do so or have someone with you to go through it together.

    Our cancer nurses are just a phone call away if you would like to chat to someone about this as well. Their freephone number is 0808 800 4040 and are available Monday - Friday, between the hours of 9.am - 5p.m.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Lenon22 

    i am watching my grandmother dye at the present moment and i was going to say i would be a bit of help but my nan is taking us all by surprise. one minute her hands and feet are stone cold, her breathing slows right down with large gaps in between (all signs that it is going to happen soon) and she has been unrousable since saturday (now on wednesday)... but she is still going. she has lost incredible amounts of weight. she has advanced stages of bowel cancer and 2 weeks ago suffered a haemorrhage and thats when the decline started to happen. honestly i wish i could be of more help but i will be honest i do not get it myself. We have watched pain and missery over the last 7 months and for her sake i wish that it would end as hard as that is to say.  i have read countless amounts of pages on the internet trying to find the same answers as you but they all say the same and my nan displays some of them but then returns to a comatised state with normal breathing. 

    sorry i couldn't be of anymore help