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My dad has terminal pancreatic cancer

Lizrod
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My dad has been battling cancer for 2 years now, he was doing chemo but eventually chemo couldnt help him anymore and his cancer started spreading to his abdomen and liver.

I just got the diagnosis 2 days ago that he has a few days left to live if not weeks but not months, since he is too weak,

I cant cope with this.

I am 25 years old and i have 2 siblings , im the middle child and ive been the one constantly helping my mother help my dad with his medications,  taking care of him etc

I have to be strong for my mother and my siblings and i thought i was holding it together but knowing now his final days are here it breaks my heart and soul.

My dad is currently in hospice,

And it breaks my heart to see him deteriorate .

I accepted he will soon pass, but i still feel so awful. I feel so broken, i have no one else but my mom and siblings and im the back bone of the family but lately i cant seem to cope.

Hardest thing ive ever gone though, 

And i dont know what to do.

I feel so helpless .

 

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    Hun I am so sorry you have to deal with this,and before I say anything you should feel proud of yourself for what you are doing!

    Seeing your dad change daily will be heartbreaking,but in the hospice he will be getting the best care possible,my mum was more peaceful,in less pain and that's all I could ask for, I hope that you have support other than mum and siblings?

    you are only human,and what your going through isn't fair,it's cruel but you are doing the best you can xxx

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    No i dont have no one else for support.

    All my other family lives out of the country.

    I just have my mom and my 2 other siblings.

    Thats why it makes it so much harder,  because i have to be the strong one for my mom and most importantly for my father who i love very much.

    Hospice has given my dad support and meds to help him with pain but seeing him deteriorate its heartbreaking. 

    Every day is getting harder 

    I just feel hopeless and helpless 

    I had to quit my job to help my mom take care of my father full time, and also because i couldnt be at work i felt bad not being next to my father .

    Im just venting to be honest.

    I dont have no one else to talk to that has gone thru this before. 

    I know im strong and will get through this its just that somedays are harder than others.

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