Hello, 

Grandma has advanced breast cancer diagnosed about 3 months ago. She also has a fungating lesion on the tumour. Having kept this a secret for so long grandma was in the advanced stages when diagnosed and the cancer has also spread to her lymph nodes . As a family we are now offering palliative care at home and take it in turns to stay over. My aunty lives in London and visits us as much as possible although my mum has a complicated relationship with my grandma and isn't coping very well. I spend a lot of time looking after my grandma, I also prepare the family rota, get the shopping and she calls me whenever she needs me. I'm fine with this. However, about a week ago I had an extremely bad nightmare . I heard my grandma falling down the stairs and calling out my name .I was half awake but I couldn't move- I was frozen. When I eventually could move I tried to get out of bed and crashed into the wall because I was at home not in my grandmas house. It was very distressing and also felt very real, I even felt the vibration of her falling down the stairs and heard her calling my name. 

Last night I had another one, this time at my grandmas house. I heard a noise but couldn't turn the lamp on, non of the lights were working. So I got up and went to check on grandma. Then heard a noise downstairs and there were people in the house. I was terrified and tried to call the police . They said they couldn't help . I felt absolutely terrified and completely in the dark because I'd convinced myself they'd turned off the electric. Again I felt half awake but could not move. When I eventually woke the house was quiet and the lamp turned on. I was completely covered with sweat and felt very frightened . Has anyone else experienced nightmares? They feel so real.