Why

I'm not sure why I'm doing this...my dad was diagnosed a year ago and went through gruelling tresrment, diagnosis was not good but he came through the chemo/radio and surgery. Most of his drs didn't want to treat but surgery came threw and he was declared cancer free. We all thought how well he was doing then suddenly more weight loss, trouble swallowing, shortness of breathe . Endoscopy later cancer has come back....he was clear and it's back again  within a year why? He can hardly breathe everyday, he's skin and bones. No matter what we try to do it doesn't help and he doesn't want the help either and the more we try the more he declines 

  • Jodie,

    I am so sorry to hear about your father. It seems unfair when someone goes through all the treatment and the cancer comes back. I will be praying for you and your father. 

    Laura x

  • Hello Jodie209; so sorry that the wretched cancer has returned.  I am guessing, from your post, that your dad's cancer cannot be treated now and in any event your dad may not feel able to cope with more treatment?   It sounds as though your poor dad has been through a lot; is he getting home care?.    Don't know why he is refusing your help; tell him how much you love him (I am sure you do this anyway!) and try to talk with him about his reasons for declining any help; is your mum around and also having problems with communication?  An awful situation for the family who love your dad. I think all you can do is just be there for him and quietly do things that might help.  Annie