Devastated about my dad.

Hi everyone,

I’m Mia I’m 21, My dad had Lukemia for 5 years and then was last year diagnosed with throat cancer. I stayed so positive for him we both did. However when we went to get the results in april this the doctor said it had spread to his lungs and was fairly aggressive, it is also in his face slightly, she also advised a year to live.. so it’s terminal. Then last month a doctor advised only 3 months due to how much he changed, but truth be told I respect doctors have to give times but I don’t go by them. I’m beyond devastated that I’m helping care for my daddy and spend time with him but at the end he will be taken away from me, the pain is excruciating :(. I just wanted to know if anyone has a good books or blogs or something I can read, I should also stop thinking about the end but it’s hard. When I’m with dad I’m super strong and don’t talk about the end at all. I am trying my best, I ran a race for life last Saturday and raised 1,750 pounds for cancer research!!

Any advice is appreciated, I’m sending love to everyone else suffering x

  • Hello Miag123; so sorry to learn of your dad's illness.  It is difficult for doctors to know exactly how long someone will live.  Two people with identical conditions can vary greatly.  You, who know and love your dad so well, will just need to note the changes as they happen.    I am attaching a link from this website which gives useful information about the last months/weeks of a patient's life, also about caring.

    about-cancer.cancerresearchuk.org/.../dying-with-cancer

    I don't know if you have looked at the MacMillan Cancer Support website - that also contains a lot of useful information and recommends sources of information.  It you log into their website and click on Information and support I think you will find some useful aids; in fact I will attach a link to the screen.  MacMillan are also helpful if you just want to talk to someone; they are very knowledgeable about all things cancer-related.  You can ring them on Freefone 0808 808 0000 Mon-Fri 9am-8pm.

    Well done you for raising such a large amount of money; good on you girl. 

    Please continue to keep posting here and ask anything if you think we can help.  Annie

    www.macmillan.org.uk/.../resources-and-publications