My brother is very ill, he has a huge sarcoma, we planned a wedding for July to include him, and at the time although knowing he wouldn't improve he was well in March when we decided, but now he is so much worse and the hard decision that we came to, to fix a date for our wedding now seems so silly. The reasons we chose were about including him in a wonderful family memory and now if he may not even be there or well enough to attend it seem all a bit too much for everyone... especially mum n dad. I want to spend time with him and not rush around wedding planning. He has gone from being unsteady to requiring oxygen and having oedema, with weekly blood in a matter of two weeks. My gut is saying we should postpone but part of me feels he may be hurt with me cancelling.