hi everyone,

this is not the first time cancer has become part of the family

my father had stomach cancer 12 years ago, which he had his stomach removed and up to now he has been fine. My mum was told that she had bladder cancer about 4 years ago, she has had endless operations on it and it then spread to the vagina and skin which caused terrible issues has had to have a catheter on for two years and after many issues it was taken off and another operation early this year and 8 weeks she was told this has now spread to the pelvis she is 85 and has been told that due to her health she also copd that she would not survive an operation and there is nothing more that can be done they have done a cat scan which has also shown it is now in her one lung. My dad is 86 and they live 100 miles from me. I do have a brother but he has shown very little support to my parents. I am currently going up there as much as possible l do have a full time job and try to go every other weekend. We have had very little support     From the hospital or gp l have since spoken to the gp and explained the situation he had said he was dealing with the pain side but had not thought of the practical everyday side, l have managed to get a carer in every day to help mum and get her washed dressed and up. But she is becoming weaker by the day. My dad is very angry about the fact nothing can be done and will not accept what is happening he is terrified of the thought of being on his own and has said he always thought he go first. I am constantly resurring him l am there for them both, l am trying so hard but sometimes l feel like l am going to burst into tears.

thanks for listening is there any help l could get from anywhere else