Hi Emily-rose and welcome to the forum.

I'm really sorry to read about the discomfort your mum is currently experiencing and understand how heartbreaking it must be to hear her in pain. Our cancer nurses may be able to provide some tips on how to soothe the aches and pains so do feel free to give them a call on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. Beating bowel cancer may have some information and advice about this so it may be worth getting in touch with them as well.

We have some members - [@tigercub]‍, [@piscesjo]‍ - that have been in a similar position to your mum and now I've tagged them in this post they'll hopefully pop by when they can to share their advice and experiences with you. 

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Emilyrose10 . sorry to hear your mum is upset .it does sound like it's very early days at moment and you sound as though your very young bless you and so caring .I haven't actually had surgery for bowel cancer yet I may not need it .I was diagnosed 9 months ago with bowel cancer and it already had spread to my liver plan was chemo to shrink tumors then surgery X2 bit regular scans show bowel cancer not visible and hopefully liver will be same .so it's bit different at moment..maybe your mum's specialist nurse would give advice .maybe she would be allowed a warm hot water bottle not on wound obviously but maybe on back ease pain .maybe she can have her meds changed .obv obviously if you're poor mum is anxious that will make pain feel worse if she's frightened .we've vbee thrown a huge curve ball most of us have nothing to compare it with .I'm sure in just few days she will be more comfortable and able relax a little bit more .it is hard seeing mum in pain sorry I couldn't be much help on pain issue .mind you I had my tonsils out 5 years ago pain was awful go prescribed soluble co codamol worked a treat xx