Hi Alexandra.. .

Welcome to our little chat room ... well if l were you, I'd write down pros and cons .. like if you had 6 months (knowing it could be more or less to)  would they keep your job open for you ... if yes then l would think it's a no brainer .. you could do so much in that time and make memories that will stay with you ... fill every day just being there together ...

Or, could you compromise and do part time ... where you'd have time together but still get some time away so it doesn't become overwhelming ...

Or if you carry on working, what will you do if he gets weaker, as it's harder to stop and start ...

In the end take all the opinions l hope you get on here, look into your heart as it can only be you in the end to decide ... it's heartbraking time and won't be easy whichever you decide ... but just make sure whichever path you take, it will be one you can stand by ... and know you did what you thought was right at the time ...

Also talk to him ... he may want you there or even he may want some time on his own or with others too ... l hope you have support of a family ... and some good friends to help you along the way ...

Take care Chrissie x

Hi Alexandra,

Sorry to read about your husband's situation. Please stop feeling guilty and be pleased that you have such reasonable employers. We read so often of people whose employers illegally and immorally discriminate against people with cancer and their families.

The way they treat you will pay off for them in the long term, your story will reassure your colleagues that they have an understanding employer who values its workforce. 

Best wishes

Dave

Thank you all for the replies ..I will still get paid until jyou then after that I can take a career break they say..not that the money side of things is relevant. ..it's just while hubby is OK we are off doing things .holidays. .going for lunch. .just things I couldn't do if I was at work .I guess it's the uncertainty of everything and not being able to give my employers a definite answer ...I do think that if all goes OK with the clinical trials and we get more time I'll consider part time. .I think i just wanted someone to say to me .."don't feel guilty" ..

Don't feel guilty.

I started a new job. Mum was given 2 weeks to a month with her cancer. I have been up her for 6 weeks. 

My work have been great. Given my short time of employment 

No one ever lies on there death bed wishing they had spent more time at work. FAMILY IS FAMILY.and out priority. 

I do know the turmoil you are facing .... but you sound like you work for a great company too. 

This is precious time you will never get back. .... 

Take it.