Hi Newts,

A very warm welcome to Cancer Chat.

I am so sorry to hear about your friend's diagnosis and to hear how aggressive she was with you on Friday. This is very distressing. I nursed my mum, who had breast cancer for 12 years before she died with metastases in her brain, bones, lungs and liver. It was not unusual for her to have the odd outburst in the latter stages and it was difficult not to take what was said personally, but it was also totally out of character for her.

Please continue to support your friend and try not to let these outbursts worry you. It is a cruel, cruel disease and there is no accounting for how we would react if, heaven forbid, our brains were damaged.

I am so sorry that this is what things have come to, but am thinking of and praying for both of you.

Please let us know how things go and, if we can be of any help meanwhile, we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx