Hi Vikki,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear about your nan and grandfather. No two cancers are exactly the same and different people deal with them differently too. I am not a doctor, just a breast cancer warrior, but I suspect that your grandfather may have been in slightly better health than your nan. This would explain why his care team decided to do a biopsy and offered him chemotherapy. Is your nan a  little frailer than he was at this stage? Sometimes, it is better not to carry out any invasive procedures if this is the case. Her COPD won't be helping matters either.

Chemotherapy requires a lot of stamina to get through and, I'm sure that while your nan is not in any pain, her care team will not want to make things any worse for her. It must be particularly hard for you to go through this all again, so soon after losing your grandfather. Do you have good support from your family and friends.

All you can do is to be there for her, to love and support her as best you can. If you can try to keep conversations about her cancer open, as this is a frightening time for her.

Please stay in touch and let us know how she gets on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx