Looks like Mums cancer has come back

Apologies if this is in the wrong place wasn't completely sure where to put it...Around this time last year my mum was diagnosed with lung cancer and had a very large tumour in the lung, we were told it was treatable and after a course of chemo and surgery to remove it  in November she has been recovering and doing well. 

Up until a couple of weeks ago where she lost her appetite and became ill again, she was confused, losing her balance and falling over. She went into hospital Tuesday as she was almost lifeless in bed and yesterday we found out they can see lesions in her brain on the CT scan and it's likely the cancer has spread and returned. 

We are still going to have to wait for further results from the scan she had done today so we don't know the extent/prognosis still, but I just can't believe it when everything was going so well. I'm very scared for the future and I feel so bad for my dad who is putting on a brave face but none of us are coping well. When I think of the foreseeable future I can only see some hard and troubling times ahead. I'm just so fed up of seeing her in pain and not well. 

  • I'm sorry to hear that, it sounds like a really tough time that you had already been through and now find yourself in the midst of again. Sometimes it can be hard to plan for the future when there are so many uncertainties in the present. 

    Whilst I am not in the same situation as you I didn't know if it would be useful to share. But my Mum was also diagnosed with cancer a couple of years ago, had surgery and has been fine since. But recently was recalled after a number of tests. The waiting game is the hardest bit as I don't really know what to do with myself. 

    Looking after yourself feels like it is the most important and sometimes most difficult thing to do.It's easy to concern yourself with needing to look after other family members which whilst it is important you also need to take care of yourself. Just taking time out for you (as hard as it feels) or maybe even seeking professional help (again as hard as that can be) feels like one of the things you may be able to do suring this difficult time.