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my mum was diagnosed almost 2 years ago with uterus cancer, that has spread. So we always new it would be terminal. She has had 2 rounds of cemo. After the first she had a full hysterectomy and then 1 month ago we found out that it had spread to her brain. She had a 10 day cycle of radio therapy but it didn’t help. She has rapidly deteriorated and has become bed found in the last 2 days and isn’t eating; sleeping most of the time. Me and my sister have been here most of the time and have managed to get someone to be with her at night so we csn go home to sleep. It’s hard on our family us not being around but we need to be with her. The proper care took a lot of phone calls, as her original assessment of her was when she was still able to walk. 

Its sad to watch her deteriorate so quickly 

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    Hi Shjoemma,

    I can only empathise with you and you sister. I nursed my mother to the end with cancer and am currently nursing my mother-in-law of 94, with palliative care. Does your mum have a social worker? If not, it may be well worth getting one for her. A social worker can arrange for equipment, carers/nurses to attend as often as needed and can arrange for someone to sit with her at night so that both you and your sister can get some rest. We currently have carers coming in 4 times a day to wash mum, dress her/change her, turn her, change her bed, etc. We also have the practice nurse coming in once a day. Mum has been given a hospital bed and over-bed trolley. This has all been supplied by our local authority at no additional cost to her or my father-in-law. What a wonderful health service we have!

    I wasn’t aware of such a service and had been struggling along with my 97 year old father-in-law to look after her. My mum-in-Law also stopped walking and eating within a matter of weeks and In the end, we saw the social worker on Friday and everything was put in place by the Monday. If you haven’t had help from this quarter, it might be well worth trying. My mum-in-law does not have cancer but watching my mum with cancer was absolutely heart-breaking towards the end, as she went downhill so quickly.

    I am thinking of you all and wish you strength at this difficult time.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Thank you for your kind words. 

    They have now worked really quickly to provide most things she needs. We can only hope for her to be comfortable.