My mum, aged 86, had bowel cancer 6 years ago which was removed. Last September she was told cancer had returned in her omentum. She has decided on no further treatment and not to know her life expectancy, which I fully understand.At present she is relatively well, but it seems she is just waiting for the end to come, with no real desire to enjoy the time she has left, but instead to sit and wait in acceptance and without any complaint. Rationally, I understand that she has had an awful last 10 years of her life: bowel cancer, her husband dyeing after caring for him for 10 years and her son taking his own life and has probably just had enough, even though she would never articulate this. Mum's lack of lust for life is so depressing, I am really struggling. I try all that I can to see her, invite her round, suggest outings she might enjoy, but she is rarely interested. I am her only tangible support and am trying to rationalise all this, to keep myself sane and not angry, that me being there for her is not enough for her to make the most of her time left.
I feel so alone and on such a downward spiral, everyone else seems to talk about their loved ones making the most of their time they have left. Has anyone else had this experience?
