waiting to hear if my mom has cancer

I found out yesterday that my mom might have cancer. I haven't heard the results yet but I'm worried. I just don't even know how to deal with all of this I'm a 20 year old in college and the only reason I know about all of this is that my dad thought I should know. I think my mom wants to protect me by not telling me yet but I'm just really scared. 

I'm an only child too and my dad has health problems too. What am I supposed to do? I just don't know how to deal with all of this. I know its not definite but I already feel so alone. 

Part of me just wants to drop everything and spend as much time as I can with my mom. The other part knows she would want me to focus on my education. But she's my mom. My best friend. 

Why my mom? To me she's the most amazing person in the world. She's the one I always aspired to be when I was a kid. I always thought that she would live a long healthy life. But now what? What am I supposed to do? 

 

 

  • Hello sarah720.  I am sorry that you are worried about your mum - when do you think her results will come through?  Easier said than done but don't get ahead of yourself just yet.  Most people who are sent for tests do not have cancer; doctors send people for testing to rule things out as well as confirming things. So hold your horses until the results are known (easy to say, I know).  Of course any possible threat to your mum's wellbeing is a worry to you; if - and it is still an if - the results are not good you can then decide as a family how you are going to deal with it.  When you get the results - whatever they are - please do come back here and talk to us again.    Best wishes to you.  Annie

  • Hi and I am sorry to hear about even the possibility that your mom may have it. 

    Annieliz is correct. Don't do anything drastic or.make any big decisions yet. First find out if she has it. If she does then you need to find out what options you have. Those will vary depending on how much cancer is there. My father lost his stomach and kidney and is now on his death bed with days to live. So believe me when I say it's a long and painful road that I hope you and your family don't have to travel on. God bless