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My mum has breast cancer .

Kazander
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I’ve been caring for my mum who’s breast cancer has came back after 7 years, it’s now in her lung liver bone and peritoneum, she has had nearly 2 years of treatment to keep cancer at bay but I’m terrified now that she’s going to die soon, she has copd and Just came out of hospital with pneumonia.shes lost weight through lack of appetite and is due to start another new chemo on Thursday(if they decide she’s fit enough) 

shes talking about her funeral I think she knows she’s getting worse. I’m trying to be strong and hold it together for her but I’m in emotional turmoil. 

We lost my mother in law to a brain tumour really suddenly 5 months before this diagnosis and I have a 4 year old girl, I feel like I have to be strong and hold it t together for everyone and don’t want them to see me like this. Can anyone relate to this?

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    Hi Kazander,

    A very warm welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I think that you will find that most people on this forum can relate to how you feel. It is unfortunate that you lost your mother-in-law so recently too. It is not easy to be the strong one, as you need to be in this situation. You may find yourself very tearful at times. If this happens, let the tears flow, as they are a good stress release. Our emotions are all over the place when given a diagnosis like this.

    It is always difficult when a loved one starts talking about  a funeral, but we all like to know that everything is in order before we pass. Can you perhaps help her to arrange this?

    I cared for my mum for 12 years with breast cancer. It eventually spread to her liver, lungs, brain and bones and  spread very quickly at that stage. That was 20 years ago and I remember it as if it were yesterday. I hope that your mum is fit enough to start the new chemo on Thursday.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how things go.

    We are always here for you whenever you want to talk.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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