We have known since October that my partner has cancer. Initial biopsies showed undifferentiated carcinoma of some variety. After further scans showing a lot of activity around the parotid/lymph nodes on one side, he had an operation in January that removed his parotid gland and the lymph system on one side. Of 35 glands removed, 34 tested positive for cancer. 

He began radiotherapy this week, and we've actually only recieved the 'proper diagnosis' today of salivary duct carcinoma - I looked up some information and it seems to be a very aggressive disease with generally poor prognosis. He hasn't even finished his radiotherapy yet and they're already talking about more operations.

I'm currently doing a PhD which I've had to put on hold because the stress of this on top of that is just too much to bear. I already take medication for anxiety and depression. He on the other hand always looks on the bright side, which I am finding fairly frustrating, if I'm honest, but I obviously can't hold it against him.

There is quite a large age difference between us - without sounding morbid you often know you're going to end up looking after your partner, but I didn't expect this so early on. We had planned to elope and get married this summer(!) but I can't see that happening now that treatment has taken over our lives